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Why I vote pro-choice

Blog for ChoiceBecause I’m a mother.

Because I have a daughter.

Because the one bond that can never be broken is the one between parent and child and an unwanted child is thus a tremendous burden. And I never want my daughter to have to bear that burden. Hell, I don’t want to bear that burden!

But also for more complicated reasons. So complicated I’m not sure I can write them all down while aforementioned daughter is napping, but I’ll try. Primarily, because the anti-choice crowd thinks of women as un-people. People like Huckabee treat women like slightly dim children who don’t have the brains, will, guts, or ability to make choices for themselves. They believe in making laws to protect vulnerable women from their overly emotional and irrational decisions, with the implication that all women are always vulnerable, overly emotional, and irrational.

They don’t believe in sex, either. At least not good sex. In their little minds, sex is something that happens in one circumstance, one way, at certain times, under the aegis of their beliefs. Anything else is wrong, sick, evil, dirty, and they belittle and attack women who don’t fall into their narrow little definition.

I want my daughter to be able to love sex. Enjoy it. Know about it. I never want her to be ashamed of the body or sexual urges that Mother Nature has endowed her with. I want her to enter into any sexual relationship with foresight, confidence, and a package of condoms. Anti-choicers want to take that away from women. Men, too, but I’m a woman and I’ve got a daughter. I imagine mothers of sons have their own take on things.

And, finally, because choice means having information and study after study indicates that information and contraception are the way to avoid abortions, not chastity, virginity balls, shame, and ignorance.

I vote pro-choice because I’m a woman and the mother of a (very tiny, soon-to-be) woman and don’t want her to be trapped by someone else’s extraordinarily wrong-headed view of sex.

In case it isn’t clear by the above rant, today is Blog for Choice Day. Rock the vote, Moms. If we all moved together, mothers could change the world. If, you know, we had enough sleep.)

  1. January 23, 2008 at 3:07 am

    Attitudes about sex will be formed by home life, but also by the society, which given the access to anything goes all the time on the internet, scares the hell out of me. Attitudes about abortion is the least of my worries. You are right about mothers of sons, the sons who will grow up to, for lack of a better term, ‘hook-up’ with your daughters…I’m so scared that they (all boys, mine included) at adolescents or young adult hood will feast their eyes on the porn at their fingertips that objectifies women…seeing it at 30-40 yrs when most people can enjoy the fantasy is much different than seeing it as a teen and having that be the expectation. I need to sign them up for more sports, so they have no time on their hands and lots of ways to work off ‘excess energy’, lol. The anti-abortion crowd may or may not view women as un-people. I think the internet is going to raise generations that rob people of the scope and enjoyment of sex by exposure way before young minds can comprehend it, thus resulting in both boys and girls thinking of themselves as ‘un-people’. I don’t think there is much, “chastity, virginity balls, shame” out there. Ignorance, in every sense of the word though is, and it’s perpetuated by the vast expanse of (carnal) knowledge just a click away. I don’t want our young people to be “to be trapped by someone else’s extraordinarily wrong-headed view of sex.” But how to we protect them once they have the condom in place? You pays your money and you takes your chances, I suppose….enough sleep? Wait until we are wondering where they are after 7 pm…

  2. C'tina
    January 23, 2008 at 6:11 pm

    I appreciate the opporotunity to vent my fears hear. I mean no disrespect, and apologize for being so off topic. I’m curious what others think the effects of sites like efukt and LiveLeak will have on young minds. These sites are not for the fainthearted. Good old fashioned porn, threesomes, what have you, is one thing…but this stuff?? The idea of “Childhood” is a relatively new concept http://webster.edu/~corbetre/philosophy/education/aries/aries-discovery.html –so as progressive as some might think the internet has allowed us to become, I can only think that in some of the most basic and base instances, it’s taking us backwards.

  1. January 23, 2008 at 7:24 pm

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